“Confidence is a habit that can be developed by acting as if you already had the confidence you desire to have” – Brian Tracy
Watching the Olympics, it struck me how often the commentators mentioned the word confidence.
We all felt so sorry to see Elise Christie, the Team GB speed skater, crash out of her first race. The commentators spoke about how she had the confidence to come back after the disappointment to face her second race. Again she sadly crashed out through no fault of her own, and despite soft tissue damage to her ankle, today she tweeted that she was working hard to try to turn it around for her third and final race. That’s confidence!
When Lizzy Yarnold was interviewed after she won the gold medal in the skeleton yesterday, she said “We believed we could do it.” This attitude of self-confidence seems to be giving these athletes a psychological edge over their competitors.
What is confidence?
It is the self-belief that something can and will happen. When you are feeling confident, you have a positive attitude towards yourself and your own abilities, and you believe that things will turn out in your favour. If you experience a setback, you are more likely to get back up, dust yourself off, and try again.
Certainly as I have grown older, my confidence levels and my resilience in dealing with setbacks have both increased. With experience comes knowledge on how to deal with certain situations which undoubtedly increases your confidence. Also I don’t worry so much what people think of me. I realised that people are often too busy thinking about themselves to actually spend much time thinking about other people. It is not nasty, it is just human nature. People have their insecurities, their own worries, their own to do lists and their own plans whirling around their minds, that often there is no space to factor in someone else’s mental load.
Tips to boost your confidence:
- Try to make confidence one of your daily habits, one that is as natural as brushing your teeth.
- Hang around with positive people. Their positivity will rub off on you.
- Think about all of your achievements to date. Nothing reminds you of what you are capable of more than a comprehensive list highlighting your skills and abilities.
- Remember that people are often too busy to judge you. They are often far too busy judging themselves.
- If you don’t feel confident, fake it. Stand up tall, use an assertive voice. Nobody will know if you are shaking inside.
- To finish off with one of my favourite quotes from Dr Seuss remember;
“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind” – Dr Seuss
What do you do to boost your confidence? Please share your tips below. Thank you dear readers x