We started Session 9 of our life coaching with Deborah Chalk by having a general chat about how we are feeling and what had happened over the previous week. Each member of the group took it in turns to discuss our thoughts and feelings. Deborah asked us to think about who we are without those thoughts. She reminded us that we are not our thoughts and feelings.
Guided Visualisation – Your Future Self
Deborah then introduced us to a Guided Visualisation by Tara Mohr from her book ‘Playing Big’ where we were to imagine meeting our future self. This is originally an exercise from the Coaches’ Training Institute and the idea is that you visualise meeting your future self in order to gain their guidance, wisdom and insight.
Deborah asked us to sit in a comfortable chair with both feet grounded to the floor and to take three deep breaths. She asked us to imagine being guided by a strong light that lifts us out of the room we are in, into the sky, past the clouds, out into the universe. The very same light was then to guide us back down past the clouds, into the sky, down into the room where our future self is living, twenty years into the future.
I imagined being greeted by my future self at her home, being invited in, having a drink with her, taking in her surroundings, asking her questions and being gifted a present by her.
After the visualisation came to an end, Deborah asked us a number of questions taken from the book ‘Playing Big’ and to journal what we saw. Some of the questions she asked included:
- What was your future self’s presence like?
- What was her home like?
- What were the answers she had for you?
- What did she answer when you asked her the question: “What do I need to do to get from where I am to where you are?”
- What was her true name?
- What was her parting gift to you?
I generally struggled to answer many of the questions and that is where practise comes in. I need to dedicate more time to this. However what I did notice was that I enjoyed meeting my future self and her true name was ‘Godmother’. I think this relates to the fact that I like to have strong female presence in my life. Whilst I have great relationships with my wonderful mum, my two elder sisters, and my female friends, unfortunately the location of my husband’s work has meant I don’t get to see them as much as I would like.
The parting gift was a paperweight, and at the time I thought how odd. It was only after having a conversation with my husband about having the windows open in his office and all his papers blowing across the room, that I realised the significance. I have an aversion to change and a paperweight is designed to keep things in their place.
With practise, this has the potential to be a very powerful visualisation tool which can present interesting answers to questions you may have been asking yourself. I certainly found it enlightening.
What was also very interesting to me was that the house I saw in this visualisation was exactly the same as the house I imagined in The Ideal Day visualisation that we had practised last week. Maybe one day I will have that beautiful house in the country!
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